My child didn't want to come in the house yesterday evening and by the time she did, I calmly told her we couldn't have a story because that used all my energy up and that she had to help me get it back. She thought about it, tried to muster up some tears, and went down to her room. She came back a while later, having changed into her PJs, and told me she was going to help me by washing clothes while I read my own story and handed me my kindle. She loaded her dirty clothes into the washer, started the water, asked me to help with the soap (I did) and told me to go back and read.
Sometimes we think our small ones aren't ready to get us some energy back after but here's a great example of what one mom of a 4-year old did that was a huge success. Enjoy reading!
My child didn't want to come in the house yesterday evening and by the time she did, I calmly told her we couldn't have a story because that used all my energy up and that she had to help me get it back. She thought about it, tried to muster up some tears, and went down to her room. She came back a while later, having changed into her PJs, and told me she was going to help me by washing clothes while I read my own story and handed me my kindle. She loaded her dirty clothes into the washer, started the water, asked me to help with the soap (I did) and told me to go back and read.
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One set of parents who were taking the class as a couple reported this story to me within weeks of starting the class. ================= We used Love and Logic® techniques all throughout dinner tonight. For bedtime I did find it amusing when my son was trying to control me about getting in the bath (which he didn't want to do). I said, "Kids who do not take a bath do not get a book" in which he replied "no fair". I said, "ahhuh" and walked away. That was the end of the argument so to speak! Hurrah!! ================= It can be amazing when we start to change. Congrats! The only reminder would be to keep things positive and say what YOU are willing to do. It would sound something like "I read books to kids who take a bath." It gets us away from threats and towards reminding ourselves that we need to say what WE will do and the kids get to decide what THEY will do. |
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