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Braindead and Electronics

3/27/2015

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One of my families was following up on a STRONG recommendation to move electronics out of the bedroom. Here is what ensued:

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I told the kids that we were moving all electronics into the family room. One child became surprisingly upset and argumentative about this loss of their rights. My husband kept saying, "we love you to much to argue." I listened and gave a few "mhmms" and "I knows." I let my child do the talking. They wanted me to respond with evidence why their cell phone shouldn't be in their bedroom. Don't I trust them? They were frustrated that I wouldn't argue with them.

The punchline is that this child told me I don't need any more parenting classes because they aren't helping.

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Too funny! They say our kids won't appreciate us changing, don't they! These parents held their ground and went braindead. Excellent teamwork!


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Energy Drains and "I know..."

3/25/2015

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One parent last Fall sent me info on how her new L&L skills were working out in her house. They were simple but... worked! Read on...

Got a chance to use the energy drain consequence with my son - I had to ask him 3x to find a book and it really was exhausting! So, after a dramatic "I'm-so-tired" effort on my part and an explanation of consequences, he ended up folding laundry, which he actually enjoyed (will tuck that away) and I thanked him for restoring my energy.

Also, my daughter started arguing right before bed about a halloween costume. Last week, she overheard me explaining the "I know..." brain-dead technique to a friend. So when she started her second "but...I want" I said, very empathetically, "I know........."

She said "really??" and went upstairs and found another costume. Quick learner.

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This parent got it and so did the kids! Great job remembering that these simple techniques can make a big difference in our lives as parents.

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